Disgusted and Tired!

I have been reading a lot of articles with regards to the Rape and horrific murder of Jyothi in Delhi and I didnt really didnt want to write about it. It felt a lot like hitting my head on a brick wall.

But my disgust to the reaction by many men and some women would not let me keep quiet.
They all seem to be universally of the opinion that any woman who gets raped asks for it. A friend said that the rape is by itself not really a big deal, it is the girl’s murder that must be emphasized. Not a BIG DEAL?

I was asked not to be Over-emotional when I spoke against the existing mentality. When I said that it takes a woman in an indian city, to be pawed and abused on a daily basis, to understand the depth of pain that every woman faces. My words were obviously ignored and went unheard. Because after all I was being over-emotional about something that is not really related to me.

Despite my best belief against anything good coming out of this, there is a little hope in my mind that maybe, just maybe this brave girl’s death might be the catalyst that is required to make our country a safer place for women. But some of the reactions, the police treatment of the protestors and the government are trying their hardest to bludgeon that hope to death.

I have been told time and again that women just claim rape to get out of trouble. Apparently a woman can never be raped, it is always consensual. They are misusing the law (though the way police treat a victim, I am not sure why any one would want to misuse that law). I am sure there have been cases like that.. But this is like the example of Draupadi. Everytime you talk about polygamy, pat comes the reply that Draupadi had 5 husbands too. But see Draupadi is the only woman in ALL of the hindu mythologies to have more than 1 husband, while 99.9% of the men had multiple wives. She was the exception to the rule, rather than the rule itself, just like these women.

Its always the way she is dressed, the time she goes out, the company she keeps, the place she visited that are the reason for her getting abused. NEVER NEVER NEVER the perpetrator himself.He is a poor innocent guy who was enticed by her. And ofcourse how can we forget. Its all a media hype. nothing at all actually happened.

I have not said anything different or better than any of the other more erudite folks have said. But it feels good to spew out the disgust at some of my heartless countrymen.

Do any of you feel like women need to go through another freedom fight? Looks like 1947 Aug 15 was only for men. Sigh!

Note: I read this great article by a gentleman in IHM, that says maybe all is not lost.


HNY and Happy Pongal

Hello All and a very Happy New Year!

How has the new year been treating y’all?

I started it with a Bang.. literally! Was standing with the thousands of toronto-vasis at midnight in the Nathan Phillips square, freezing but still revved up to see the firecrackers welcome the new year.

But since then it has been one (mis)adventure after another. 😛


=> The subway station was soo crowded, early 1st morning, that we could not even get into the station. So smart gals that we are, VM and I, decided to walk to the next station and get into the train.. Only we didn’t realize we were walking on the wrong road until we had walked for some 20 minutes. But we did have fun playing in the huge drifts of snow on the way.


=> I was sooo looking forward to my first snow. I thrilled to see the flakes fall on me the first time. My client was very amused at my expression of wonder when I stopped working to see snow fall.


=> This was of course the first few days. And then once there was enough snow piled up, the roads were a slushy mess. The winds were brrr cold. The cars were going fast on the roads and splatting mess on the pedestrians. Shoes were so messy, one could not go into the house wearing them. Cleaning shoes everyday itself was a major pain and the worst of lot was that the snow in front of my house (my house being the only one in the whole road which had snow un-shovelled) had turned into ice and .. did I not say I started the year with a bang?


=> There was no point buying new clothes during the huge sale during the boxing day (not that it stopped me from buying.. and I also got this super cute Guess watch :-D) because nothing is seen by anyone. We are so covered by layers after layers of clothing, that it does not matter what you wear.


=> But it has not been all bad either.. I shifted to a bigger place. And when you don’t have to walk on it, the snow is ever soooo pretty. Being in downtown they clear off the sidewalks and the roads a minute after it snows. And I still walk out on the sidewalks instead of the underground Paths.. just to breathe in the fresh, ice cold air.


 => I have gotten so much more comfy with the underground path here. I used to feel like I was left alone in a maze the first few months… but now I am happy to say I don’t get lost much at all. Feels like a huge accomplishment.


 => The gal who used to shiver when the temp reaches 22deg in Chennai is so comfy with -16 deg. And how cool is that (pun intended). My parents are still disbelieving that I am ok with the weather here. But it really has been an experience for me.


=> Did I tell you that I went to Niagara over the weekend to see the festival of lights? The first time was almost a divine experience for me. But I guess I got spoiled for the second one. These Canadians are a wizard with lights. Where you get to see Ganesha, Durga and Balaji in huge colorful lights in Chennai during festival season, here we get to see flowers, animals, cartoon characters and very pretty decorations. Whole roads and cities filled with lights.


=> Speaking of divine experiences, had lunch at Saravana Bhavan… oh Yummm!!!!!!

That’s what has been happening in life the last coupla months. Also folks Happy Pongal!